Scott Asmar: The Man & Everything In Between

EP11: Taxiing and Taking Off Again - Redefining My Fatherhood As Kids Graduate

“Fatherhood never stops,” Scott Asmar reflects in this episode as he talks about how being a dad changes as your kids grow into adults. He shares the moment he watched his daughter graduate and realized that parenting doesn’t end with their independence—it just shifts. What does it look like to support your kids when they’re no longer kids? Scott discusses how fatherhood has evolved, with dads becoming more involved at every stage of their children’s lives. He talks about the importance of staying close, carving out intentional time together, and respecting their adult children’s independence. How do you balance being there for your kids while giving them space to lead their own lives? 
 
Scott’s message is clear—fatherhood is a lifelong journey, one that’s built on love, growth, and learning along the way.
 
Quotes
“I had a revelation. And that revelation was that fatherhood doesn’t stop. Just because they’re graduating doesn’t mean fatherhood ends.” (01:30 | Scott Asmar) 
“But sitting through that commencement, it hit me—wait a minute, your duties as a father aren’t stopping. They’re just morphing into something different, something that involves parenting adult children. It was this revelation that fatherhood, like your walk with Christ, is a journey. It continues until you lay your head down for the last time—you will always be a father.” (02:01 | Scott Asmar) 
“Not only am I speaking to fathers who have biological children, but anyone can take on the role of fatherhood. And when you take on that role, you have to understand that it’s a lifelong journey.” (02:58 | Scott Asmar) 
“I was taking inventory of what were the things that I did as a father for her growing up that got her to this point. Some of those things I remember are the words of encouragement and strength that I would instill in both my children, in Alexander and Alexa, and to always fill them with secure thoughts to cultivate independence and phrases like, ‘You know, I know you can do it. You have to know you can do it.’ The goal of raising them, raising children, being a father, is that when we are gone, they are able to carry on.” (05:57 | Scott Asmar) 
“The most important thing that a father has to remember is that the time spent with our children is an investment, and that time is very important… We always have to remember that they’re a sponge; they’re the reason why we’re here, and we need to help them navigate through life. And that starts at a young age.” (09:51 | Scott Asmar)
 
Links
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EP10: Managing Grief in Midlife At Unexpected Times

“It’s okay to grieve, and it’s okay not to have a time limit on it. When the grief hits, it’s okay to grieve. It’s a very healthy emotion because it helps us move past the deep pits of sorrow and come to terms with the loss,” says Scott Asmar. In this episode, Scott reflects on his personal journey with loss, especially as he approaches the 10-year anniversary of his grandmother Ruby’s passing. This milestone serves as a reminder of the many loved ones he’s lost, including several family members who passed away between 2012 and 2014, leaving his family in a long period of mourning.
 
Scott opens up about the delayed grief he experienced, such as how the death of a friend from the 90s didn’t fully hit him until years later, sparked by the passing of singer Prince. Even with a background in psychology, Scott discovered firsthand that grief doesn’t follow a predictable timeline and can emerge in surprising ways.
 
Scott encourages listeners to give themselves permission to grieve without pressure, and he highlights the importance of keeping memories alive through stories, photos, and traditions, like the Armenian church’s Hoki Hankist, a prayer for souls at rest. He also shares a touching devotional from Pastor Rick Warren, reinforcing the idea that grief is not only natural but necessary. How do we find strength in the grieving process? Scott believes that by embracing grief, sharing it with loved ones or a higher power, and honoring those we’ve lost, we can move toward emotional healing and find comfort along the way.
 
Quotes
“It’s okay to grieve, and it’s okay not to have a time limit on it. When the grief hits, it’s okay to grieve. It’s a very healthy emotion because it helps us move past the deep pits of sorrow and come to terms with the loss.” (06:52 | Scott Asmar) 
“To me, it’s important to keep everyone who has passed in my life alive through stories, pictures, and dedications. One thing I love about my Armenian church is that we have what’s called Hoke Hankist. Hoke means soul, and Hankist means rest. It’s a prayer for the souls at rest… That means so much to me because it’s a remembrance that they were here, that they had a life, and that they helped mold who I am today.” (07:34 | Scott Asmar)
“It’s important not to forget the deceased, in my opinion, and pictures are worth a thousand words in keeping those memories alive. As Christians, we believe that the dead shall rise, and we shall see them again, so they’re not gone forever. It’s okay to grieve, and it’s okay to experience delayed grief. If you have delayed grief, you’re not going crazy; it’s just something that triggers it in you. Work through it, process it, and hold on to the memories and the laughter, for they shape you and help you become stronger.” (08:36 | Scott Asmar)
“The Bible teaches that it is important to grieve over your losses, including disappointments, sins, the suffering in the world, and friends who are spiritually lost. While grief is painful, it is also a healthy and necessary process. Grief is a gift from God because it helps you navigate the tough seasons of life, allowing difficult transitions to transform you… Don’t carry the pain alone—share it with God and with a close friend. Grieving opens your heart to receive comfort from God. (10:53  | Scott Asmar) 
 
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EP09: Special 80th Anniversary D-Day Tribute To My Grandfather & WWII War Hero & Veteran

“The older I get, the more I see the significance and importance of our military, of those who protect us in combat. My grandpa was one of those who fought for our freedom,” reflects Scott Asmar. In this episode, Scott shifts from his usual discussions on midlife reevaluations to pay tribute to his grandfather, John, a World War II paratrooper. The episode’s timing is meaningful, aligning with the 80th anniversary of the Normandy invasion, where John played a vital role.
 
Joining Scott is his uncle Eric, who has dedicated himself to preserving John’s legacy. Together, they explore John’s journey from his modest beginnings in Phoenix, Arizona, to his courageous service in the 82nd Airborne Division. Eric recounts gripping stories of John’s bravery during battles across Europe and the personal challenges he faced after returning home. How did John manage the psychological toll of war, especially in an era when PTSD wasn’t fully understood? The conversation uncovers the delayed recognition of his heroism and how he coped with the aftermath of war.
 
Scott and Eric offer a touching reflection on the lasting impact of war and the importance of honoring veterans like John. Despite the horrors they endured, these men retained their humanity and compassion, leaving a legacy that deserves to be remembered.
 
Quotes
“A lot of young people grow up looking to sports figures or movie actors as role models. For me, it was very simple. The only person I looked up to and idolized was my dad. He was just an awesome father, and I loved him tremendously.” (05:57 | Eric Prieto) 
“People don’t realize that my father was a very nice man, personally. He was a kind guy who would help anyone in trouble. For him to fight in the war—let’s face it, when you fight in a war, your job is to kill people—was totally against the fabric of who he was. Yet, he was willing to do that because of his love for his country and his family.” (15:57 | Eric Prieto) 
“The stress of fighting in a war is stressful enough, just being there is stressful enough. But to have to actually kill people, that is where the traumatic syndrome comes from, is the act of killing other human beings.” (22:01 | Eric Prieto) 
“Here’s a man who, through it all—the killing and seeing his comrades killing—still managed to show a little mercy to some people who were surrendering to him, to his prisoners. Despite having orders to kill the prisoners, he refused to do that. It shows that he refused to surrender his humanity. And I think that’s the part that stands out the most to me.” (27:09 | Eric Prieto)
 
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EP08: Communication is King - Meet My Children, Alexander & Alexa

“There is an art of communication and you have to communicate things the right way” says Scott Asmar, bringing wisdom to the forefront in this episode of “The Man and Everything in Between" alongside his children. In a world where miscommunication can lead to a cascade of issues, Scott advocates for a shift towards more positive, supportive, and calm ways of expressing ourselves, especially as we navigate the complexities of midlife.
 
Scott's children, Alexander and Alexa, also share their perspectives. Alexander emphasizes the value of effective communication, from maintaining personal relationships to securing a spot in law school. Meanwhile, Alexa, on the cusp of launching her career with a film degree, reflects on the evolving communication with her parents, cherishing her father's unwavering support as she steps into the future. 
 
Scott also recounts his leap from psychology to acting, revealing the candid feedback and encouragement from Alexander and Alexa. Their support highlights the importance of family backing in pursuing one's passions, regardless of the timing or the challenges ahead.
 
This episode extends an invitation to listeners: to cultivate open lines of communication in their own lives, aiming to understand different perspectives and support loved ones through life's changes.
 
Quotes
"It's taken me years to understand the art of communication or to try to begin to understand that our words do matter. What we say to people does stick with them." (02:13 | Scott Asmar) 
"Communication does break down at certain points. It breaks down with the spouse, it breaks down with friendships, it breaks down in acquaintances, and especially it breaks down in children. And it takes a lot to keep it going, and it takes a lot to recognize it." (03:31 | Scott Asmar) 
"I started cleaning up my act and my selfishness that I was going through and started to see that we needed to sit down and talk with one another, not argue, not blame, not point fingers, but just openly communicate about our own thoughts and what was going on with us. With outside help, we managed to slowly climb back. And we're still working on communicating at a better level each time." (05:19 | Scott Asmar)
"I've definitely realized how important communication is, not just within the family, but also within friendships and relationships as you get older and in the workplace as well, communicating with co-workers and your superiors. It's really the foundation of a successful relationship. (08:00 | Alexander Asmar)
 
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EP07: 6 Social Connections Each Month Keeps the Doctor Away + Surprise Guest

The secret to a fulfilling life is often found in our relationships with those we hold dear. Scott Asmar and his better half, Jane, explore this statement through a candid discussion about the essence of connections. In this episode, they share their journey into how they've navigated their own relationship hurdles.
 
Jane recounted a conversation with her sister, who mentioned a doctor's tip about the importance of making six meaningful connections a month. This led to a conversation about how making connections with friends, family, or even helping out in charity work significantly affects our happiness, particularly in our middle years.
 
Through stories of tighter bonds and reflections on purposeful engagement, Scott and Jane unpack the layers of communication and mutual support that form the foundation of any strong relationship. The couple tackles the challenges and triumphs of keeping connections alive, whether with loved ones or the wider community and they stress the importance of setting healthy boundaries and consciously choosing positivity in our interactions.
 
Faith plays a central role in the conversation, shedding light on how shared beliefs and practices can enrich a relationship. The couple encourages us to keep our relationships front and center, to find the joy in every interaction, and to never underestimate the power of reaching out and truly connecting.
 
Quotes
“As human beings, we are made to have relationships. We are made to be with people. That's why God created man. That's why he created woman to be the helper, to be the companion, to be the partner. And God doesn't want us here by ourselves. So that's why it's so important to foster your relationships.” (06:18 | Jane Asmar) 
“What starts to become important, I realize, are my friendships, our marriage, focusing back on people because it's people who make us feel fulfilled, contented, joyful. [With] somebody to talk to, to listen to, I think those things help you grow.” (08:16 | Jane Asmar)
"You need, in your life, six connections every month, whether that's with friends, your spouse, or even charity work. Whatever it is, you have to make these six connections." (09:44 | Jane Asmar) 
"My life is just basically work, come home, grocery store, go to dinner, be with my family. And I started thinking about that. I said, am I being intentional with my friendships? And that's a keyword, “intentional.” Am I making the effort? Am I being a good friend? And what am I bringing to the table? How can I help serve them?" (10:00 | Jane Asmar)
"Boundaries are very important. I have learned about boundaries later in life, as opposed to early in life. I didn't really understand keeping those boundaries or building those boundaries. It's not a negative. It's just making sure that you are protected as a person and setting the limits to what you can and cannot do." (21:24 | Scott Asmar)
"We truly want our listeners to know that you're not alone. You don't have to be alone and connections and relationships are important." (24:14 | Scott Asmar)
 
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EP06: Journaling & Midlife Relationships

How can we maintain relationships and cultivate a sense of gratitude particularly as we navigate midlife? Drawing from his own 26 years of marriage, host Scott Asmar talks about the ups and downs of relationships and the hard work they require to thrive.
 
Scott gets real about what keeps a relationship going. He shares a personal tip that's changed the way he sees his loved ones: writing down the good stuff about them in a journal. It's a simple strategy, focusing on the positives, which has helped him appreciate his wife and friends more.
 
Scott's stories and tips provide a fresh perspective on strengthening bonds with those around you. He also emphasizes our need for connection and a sense of community. He encourages listeners to try out the journal idea for themselves so they can remember why they value their close relationships. It's a practical step toward bringing back that initial excitement and cultivating gratitude in your life. 
 
Quotes:
“Those attributes, those commitments and follow through and work and dedication can be used in any type of relationship, any type of friendship. Everything takes dedication, everything takes commitment, everything takes follow-through, everything takes work. And even as we do with our homes, with our bodies, with our cars, the upkeep of all of that to maintain its proper use to maintain its full capacity. Same thing with a relationship. We need to put that into our relationships in order for them to work and for them to to get the most out of who we choose to be with. If we don't, we run the risk of decaying these relationships.” (02:53 | Scott Asmar)
“When we're in the middle of our life and there's so much stimuli around us and there's so many things that consume us in terms of children or family or aging parents, that we need to refocus. And it is important to have these connections and it is important to have the strong connection with your spouse. or your significant other, because those are the backbones. Those are what help you. The friendships that we have are also important too. (06:07 | Scott Asmar)
“Connecting with people is important to our psyche. Everybody has a sense of wanting to belong. Everybody has a sense of wanting to be a part of something at any age.” (06:42 | Scott Asmar) 
“The key to people is the connection and being a part of something. And everybody longs for that at no matter what age. I've seen it in older people and in young people. And you can see it on the playground of a school. Just that connection and being a part of something really helps you mentally to grow and to mature and to fulfill that need.” (07:31 | Scott Asmar)
“I encourage you to start the journal. And to write down the list of things, starting with your spouse, significant other, what drew you to them. List every positive aspect of them. Don't do a positive and negative, only positives. And read that, read that once a week, read that once a month to refresh your memory of why you're with this person. And branch out to the friendships. Why are you with these core friends? What drew you together? You'll see that it'll be very enlightening and it'll take you back to that time of the quote unquote honeymoon stage. (08:15 | Scott Asmar) 
 
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EP05: Finding Out How You Like Your "Lemonade" in Midlife

One key takeaway from this episode is the importance of self-reflection. As we journey through midlife, Scott encourages listeners to ask themselves important questions: Are my needs being met? Is there a balance between work and family? Am I lonely? By taking the time to check in with ourselves, we can identify areas for growth and make positive changes.
 
Scott also emphasizes the power of consistency, persistence, and faith. These three ingredients can yield remarkable results in any aspect of life. Whether it's losing weight, excelling in your career, or fostering stronger relationships, being consistent and persistent is key. And don't forget to rely on your faith, whatever it may be, to guide you through life's trials and tribulations.
 
But perhaps the most valuable lesson from this episode is the importance of time. Scott reminds us that time is not on our side, and we must take control of it. Whether it's making time for our children, our spouses, or ourselves, carving out moments of connection and presence can have a profound impact on our lives.
 
Midlife is definitely a time of reflection and, sometimes, reframing. But it's also a chance to build on the wisdom we've accumulated to evolve in a positive way. Take Scott’s advice and “See everything.”
 
Quotes:
“I usually ask myself a few specific questions. Are my needs being met? You know, is there something lacking that I need to be fulfilled within the day, within the week, within the month? Pick a self-check on that and identify if there's something there that's not quite right within you.” (2:51 | Scott Asmar)
“Inconsistency fosters insecurity, and consistency equals security.” (6:36 | Scott Asmar) 
“Take time back. It's not going to come back on its own. What was yesterday is yesterday. What was an hour ago was an hour ago and it's not going to reset itself. Only option is to move forward, but stop and take the time back. Don't let it control you. You control the time.” (8:24 | Scott Asmar) 
 
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EP04: Dealing with Post Holiday Blues: Doing Self Checks for Midlife Wellness

Looking to beat those post-holiday blues? Join Scott Asmar, the man and everything in between, as he delves into the challenges and triumphs of midlife. In this episode, Scott explores the importance of self-reflection and setting goals to navigate through this stage of life. He shares his own accomplishments, from getting signed by an agent to improving his eating habits, and emphasizes the power of self-affirmation. Scott reminds us that as our tastes and preferences change, it's crucial to let go of what no longer serves us and embrace new experiences. By doing regular self-checks, we can avoid the dreaded midlife crisis and thrive in this new season. So, take a moment for yourself, carve out that precious alone time, and discover how to renew and redefine your life. Join Scott Asmar, the man and everything in between, and unlock the secrets to a fulfilling midlife journey.
 
Quotes:
“When I think about the spring or think about what accomplishments I want to accomplish, I'd like to take the time with myself. It's actually carving out the 20, 30 minutes a week and really enjoy being with who you are and understanding who you are and deciphering what it is these next few months that you would like to accomplish. It's the alone time and everyone needs it.” (2:36 | Scott Asmar)
“It is important to understand that when we get to midlife, that things do change. That once our likes and our dislikes, once the things that we liked before, we seem not to like them anymore, our tastes have changed. And it's important to get in tune with that and to understand that and to kind of let go of what we don't need so that we're able to move forward.” (6:27 | Scott Asmar)
“I believe that it's important to do these self-checks, especially at the first of the years, because it will help us navigate through the rest of the year.”  (7:44 | Scott Asmar) 
“There is something that goes on with the man in midlife. And it comes out in many different ways. But I believe, looking back now, that doing the self-checks and understanding how our dynamics, how our likes and dislikes change, helps us maneuver through that midlife crisis, as they say. And if we don't start understanding who we are in terms of this point in our life, we start to deteriorate.” (8:16 | Scott Asmar) 
 
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EP03: No Regrets: Forging My Non-Linear Future with Faith, Fatherhood and Fear

"Are you ready to reevaluate your life in midlife?" This question sets the stage for the latest episode of "Scott Asmar, the Man and Everything in Between." In this episode, Scott delves into the essence of being a man in midlife, emphasizing the importance of understanding various life aspects like finance, parenting, and relationships. He believes that knowing his background is key for listeners to fully grasp the topics discussed.
 
Scott shares his upbringing in a large Armenian Orthodox Christian family, highlighting the profound impact of regular church attendance on his faith journey. He emphasizes the core values of love and acceptance in Christianity, making it clear that his approach is not about judgment or condemnation.
 
Discussing his educational background, Scott reveals his extensive academic journey, including a bachelor's degree in psychology, a master's in counseling education, and a Ph.D. in counseling human services. He recounts his early career as a study coordinator for psychiatric drug research and his significant transition to becoming a stay-at-home dad, which he considers his greatest accomplishment. Scott stresses the vital role of being present and actively involved in raising children.
 
Delving into fatherhood, Scott offers insights on the critical role fathers play in their children's lives. He notes that fathers are the first significant male influence in their daughters' lives and provide a foundation of strength and stability for their sons. He advises young fathers on the importance of spending quality time with their children and creating a structured environment for them.
 
As his children grew up and left home, Scott found himself at a crossroads, eager to pursue his dreams and explore new paths. He encourages listeners to confront their fears and take action, sharing his personal journey of chasing an acting career and participating in showcases. Despite the challenges and lack of immediate success, Scott views each experience as a stepping stone and remains committed to his aspirations.
 
This episode of "Scott Asmar, the Man and Everything in Between" offers a rich tapestry of the host's life experiences, focusing on love, acceptance, the joys of parenting, and the courage to chase dreams. It's a heartfelt call to action for men in midlife to reevaluate and rejuvenate their lives.
 
Quotes:
“Christians were put here not to judge and condemn, but to love and embrace all. And I want my listeners to know that that is the foundation for me and my Christian faith is to love and embrace. I'm not here to judge and condemn.” (2:55 | Scott Asmar)
 
“During those formative years, raising the children, you have to put yourself in the backseat, you have to put your your needs kind of on hold, which leads into the next takeoff, which is once you have launched them, as they say, and they are out of the house, then it can revert back to you.” (8:37 | Scott Asmar) 
 
Everybody hears everything, but only few listen to anything. And I want all of you to see everything, to listen to everything, and absorb all the knowledge that's around you each day. (13:06 | Scott Asmar) 
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EP02: Taxiing My Way Through Life

"Have you ever looked back at your childhood dreams and wondered what if?" This thought-provoking question opens the second episode of "Scott Asmar, The Man and Everything in Between." In this episode, Scott Asmar delves into the tapestry of his life, starting from his roots in a small town in the Central Valley, where he was raised by young parents with a rich blend of Armenian, Lebanese, and Spanish heritage. As an only child, Scott found a unique sense of belonging and comfort in his extended family, particularly cherishing his connections with his second cousins.
 
Reflecting on the solitude of his rural upbringing and the challenges of being bullied in school, Scott reveals how these experiences shaped his resilient and imaginative spirit. His childhood, though marked by loneliness, became a crucible for his rich imagination, fueled by his faith and his fascinating world of imaginary friends. 
 
A constant thread in Scott's life story is his enduring fascination with aircraft, a passion that has not only stayed with him but also serves as a metaphor for life's journey. Scott eloquently compares our life stages to the phases of an aircraft's journey - the waiting, taking off, landing, and refueling, highlighting how each stage mirrors our own life experiences.
 
Now at 55, Scott stands at a pivotal moment, ready to embrace his long-held dreams and aspirations. He inspires listeners to revisit their childhood passions, sharing his own story of pursuing a Ph.D. in psychology counseling, a path that diverged from his family's agricultural background but led him to find true fulfillment. His journey is a testament to the importance of following one's passion, even when it diverges from expected paths.
 
In this episode, Scott passionately advocates for the rediscovery and cultivation of passions, especially in midlife. He believes that the zeal and energy of our youth can be rekindled, sharing his personal decision to embark on an acting career at the age of 55, a dream he had long harbored.
 
Concluding with a powerful message, Scott encourages listeners to open the doors to self-awareness and to embrace their desires and dreams, irrespective of their age. He reminds everyone that it's never too late to recalibrate and embrace new opportunities for growth. The episode ends with an invitation to engage with the podcast and to follow Scott on Instagram for more personal insights.
 
In this deeply personal and inspiring episode of "Scott Asmar, The Man and Everything in Between," Scott explores the critical theme of revisiting and revitalizing one's life in midlife, encouraging a journey of rediscovery, passion, and personal growth.
 
Quotes:
“The best way to find out what that dream is, what that aspiration is, is to look back at your childhood and reflect on what motivated you as a child. What type of play did you engage in? And what type of atmosphere did you thrive in? Even if that atmosphere was sports, you know, what in itself with the sporting that you chose, what motivated you? OK, what drew you to that sport? That in itself can reveal something about you and your passion.” (11:04 | Scott Asmar)
 
“I believe that whatever drove us as a child, whatever we engaged in our play as a child, as adolescent, whatever we thought, whatever we felt gave us this energy, I don't think really ever leaves no matter what path we decide to take. And I believe that we need to find a way, especially in midlife, especially with the midlife man, that it's okay to go back and find that passion and look at that passion and foster it now and foster it and give it some life in a physically and mentally healthy way.” (15:37 | Scott Asmar)
 
“Many go through life looking at everything, yet seeing nothing. And I want you to see everything.” (17:40 | Scott Asmar) 
 
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