Scott Asmar: The Man & Everything In Between

EP08: Communication is King - Meet My Children, Alexander & Alexa

“There is an art of communication and you have to communicate things the right way” says Scott Asmar, bringing wisdom to the forefront in this episode of “The Man and Everything in Between" alongside his children. In a world where miscommunication can lead to a cascade of issues, Scott advocates for a shift towards more positive, supportive, and calm ways of expressing ourselves, especially as we navigate the complexities of midlife.
 
Scott's children, Alexander and Alexa, also share their perspectives. Alexander emphasizes the value of effective communication, from maintaining personal relationships to securing a spot in law school. Meanwhile, Alexa, on the cusp of launching her career with a film degree, reflects on the evolving communication with her parents, cherishing her father's unwavering support as she steps into the future. 
 
Scott also recounts his leap from psychology to acting, revealing the candid feedback and encouragement from Alexander and Alexa. Their support highlights the importance of family backing in pursuing one's passions, regardless of the timing or the challenges ahead.
 
This episode extends an invitation to listeners: to cultivate open lines of communication in their own lives, aiming to understand different perspectives and support loved ones through life's changes.
 
Quotes
"It's taken me years to understand the art of communication or to try to begin to understand that our words do matter. What we say to people does stick with them." (02:13 | Scott Asmar) 
"Communication does break down at certain points. It breaks down with the spouse, it breaks down with friendships, it breaks down in acquaintances, and especially it breaks down in children. And it takes a lot to keep it going, and it takes a lot to recognize it." (03:31 | Scott Asmar) 
"I started cleaning up my act and my selfishness that I was going through and started to see that we needed to sit down and talk with one another, not argue, not blame, not point fingers, but just openly communicate about our own thoughts and what was going on with us. With outside help, we managed to slowly climb back. And we're still working on communicating at a better level each time." (05:19 | Scott Asmar)
"I've definitely realized how important communication is, not just within the family, but also within friendships and relationships as you get older and in the workplace as well, communicating with co-workers and your superiors. It's really the foundation of a successful relationship. (08:00 | Alexander Asmar)
 
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EP07: 6 Social Connections Each Month Keeps the Doctor Away + Surprise Guest

The secret to a fulfilling life is often found in our relationships with those we hold dear. Scott Asmar and his better half, Jane, explore this statement through a candid discussion about the essence of connections. In this episode, they share their journey into how they've navigated their own relationship hurdles.
 
Jane recounted a conversation with her sister, who mentioned a doctor's tip about the importance of making six meaningful connections a month. This led to a conversation about how making connections with friends, family, or even helping out in charity work significantly affects our happiness, particularly in our middle years.
 
Through stories of tighter bonds and reflections on purposeful engagement, Scott and Jane unpack the layers of communication and mutual support that form the foundation of any strong relationship. The couple tackles the challenges and triumphs of keeping connections alive, whether with loved ones or the wider community and they stress the importance of setting healthy boundaries and consciously choosing positivity in our interactions.
 
Faith plays a central role in the conversation, shedding light on how shared beliefs and practices can enrich a relationship. The couple encourages us to keep our relationships front and center, to find the joy in every interaction, and to never underestimate the power of reaching out and truly connecting.
 
Quotes
“As human beings, we are made to have relationships. We are made to be with people. That's why God created man. That's why he created woman to be the helper, to be the companion, to be the partner. And God doesn't want us here by ourselves. So that's why it's so important to foster your relationships.” (06:18 | Jane Asmar) 
“What starts to become important, I realize, are my friendships, our marriage, focusing back on people because it's people who make us feel fulfilled, contented, joyful. [With] somebody to talk to, to listen to, I think those things help you grow.” (08:16 | Jane Asmar)
"You need, in your life, six connections every month, whether that's with friends, your spouse, or even charity work. Whatever it is, you have to make these six connections." (09:44 | Jane Asmar) 
"My life is just basically work, come home, grocery store, go to dinner, be with my family. And I started thinking about that. I said, am I being intentional with my friendships? And that's a keyword, “intentional.” Am I making the effort? Am I being a good friend? And what am I bringing to the table? How can I help serve them?" (10:00 | Jane Asmar)
"Boundaries are very important. I have learned about boundaries later in life, as opposed to early in life. I didn't really understand keeping those boundaries or building those boundaries. It's not a negative. It's just making sure that you are protected as a person and setting the limits to what you can and cannot do." (21:24 | Scott Asmar)
"We truly want our listeners to know that you're not alone. You don't have to be alone and connections and relationships are important." (24:14 | Scott Asmar)
 
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EP06: Journaling & Midlife Relationships

How can we maintain relationships and cultivate a sense of gratitude particularly as we navigate midlife? Drawing from his own 26 years of marriage, host Scott Asmar talks about the ups and downs of relationships and the hard work they require to thrive.
 
Scott gets real about what keeps a relationship going. He shares a personal tip that's changed the way he sees his loved ones: writing down the good stuff about them in a journal. It's a simple strategy, focusing on the positives, which has helped him appreciate his wife and friends more.
 
Scott's stories and tips provide a fresh perspective on strengthening bonds with those around you. He also emphasizes our need for connection and a sense of community. He encourages listeners to try out the journal idea for themselves so they can remember why they value their close relationships. It's a practical step toward bringing back that initial excitement and cultivating gratitude in your life. 
 
Quotes:
“Those attributes, those commitments and follow through and work and dedication can be used in any type of relationship, any type of friendship. Everything takes dedication, everything takes commitment, everything takes follow-through, everything takes work. And even as we do with our homes, with our bodies, with our cars, the upkeep of all of that to maintain its proper use to maintain its full capacity. Same thing with a relationship. We need to put that into our relationships in order for them to work and for them to to get the most out of who we choose to be with. If we don't, we run the risk of decaying these relationships.” (02:53 | Scott Asmar)
“When we're in the middle of our life and there's so much stimuli around us and there's so many things that consume us in terms of children or family or aging parents, that we need to refocus. And it is important to have these connections and it is important to have the strong connection with your spouse. or your significant other, because those are the backbones. Those are what help you. The friendships that we have are also important too. (06:07 | Scott Asmar)
“Connecting with people is important to our psyche. Everybody has a sense of wanting to belong. Everybody has a sense of wanting to be a part of something at any age.” (06:42 | Scott Asmar) 
“The key to people is the connection and being a part of something. And everybody longs for that at no matter what age. I've seen it in older people and in young people. And you can see it on the playground of a school. Just that connection and being a part of something really helps you mentally to grow and to mature and to fulfill that need.” (07:31 | Scott Asmar)
“I encourage you to start the journal. And to write down the list of things, starting with your spouse, significant other, what drew you to them. List every positive aspect of them. Don't do a positive and negative, only positives. And read that, read that once a week, read that once a month to refresh your memory of why you're with this person. And branch out to the friendships. Why are you with these core friends? What drew you together? You'll see that it'll be very enlightening and it'll take you back to that time of the quote unquote honeymoon stage. (08:15 | Scott Asmar) 
 
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EP05: Finding Out How You Like Your "Lemonade" in Midlife

One key takeaway from this episode is the importance of self-reflection. As we journey through midlife, Scott encourages listeners to ask themselves important questions: Are my needs being met? Is there a balance between work and family? Am I lonely? By taking the time to check in with ourselves, we can identify areas for growth and make positive changes.
 
Scott also emphasizes the power of consistency, persistence, and faith. These three ingredients can yield remarkable results in any aspect of life. Whether it's losing weight, excelling in your career, or fostering stronger relationships, being consistent and persistent is key. And don't forget to rely on your faith, whatever it may be, to guide you through life's trials and tribulations.
 
But perhaps the most valuable lesson from this episode is the importance of time. Scott reminds us that time is not on our side, and we must take control of it. Whether it's making time for our children, our spouses, or ourselves, carving out moments of connection and presence can have a profound impact on our lives.
 
Midlife is definitely a time of reflection and, sometimes, reframing. But it's also a chance to build on the wisdom we've accumulated to evolve in a positive way. Take Scott’s advice and “See everything.”
 
Quotes:
“I usually ask myself a few specific questions. Are my needs being met? You know, is there something lacking that I need to be fulfilled within the day, within the week, within the month? Pick a self-check on that and identify if there's something there that's not quite right within you.” (2:51 | Scott Asmar)
“Inconsistency fosters insecurity, and consistency equals security.” (6:36 | Scott Asmar) 
“Take time back. It's not going to come back on its own. What was yesterday is yesterday. What was an hour ago was an hour ago and it's not going to reset itself. Only option is to move forward, but stop and take the time back. Don't let it control you. You control the time.” (8:24 | Scott Asmar) 
 
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EP04: Dealing with Post Holiday Blues: Doing Self Checks for Midlife Wellness

Looking to beat those post-holiday blues? Join Scott Asmar, the man and everything in between, as he delves into the challenges and triumphs of midlife. In this episode, Scott explores the importance of self-reflection and setting goals to navigate through this stage of life. He shares his own accomplishments, from getting signed by an agent to improving his eating habits, and emphasizes the power of self-affirmation. Scott reminds us that as our tastes and preferences change, it's crucial to let go of what no longer serves us and embrace new experiences. By doing regular self-checks, we can avoid the dreaded midlife crisis and thrive in this new season. So, take a moment for yourself, carve out that precious alone time, and discover how to renew and redefine your life. Join Scott Asmar, the man and everything in between, and unlock the secrets to a fulfilling midlife journey.
 
Quotes:
“When I think about the spring or think about what accomplishments I want to accomplish, I'd like to take the time with myself. It's actually carving out the 20, 30 minutes a week and really enjoy being with who you are and understanding who you are and deciphering what it is these next few months that you would like to accomplish. It's the alone time and everyone needs it.” (2:36 | Scott Asmar)
“It is important to understand that when we get to midlife, that things do change. That once our likes and our dislikes, once the things that we liked before, we seem not to like them anymore, our tastes have changed. And it's important to get in tune with that and to understand that and to kind of let go of what we don't need so that we're able to move forward.” (6:27 | Scott Asmar)
“I believe that it's important to do these self-checks, especially at the first of the years, because it will help us navigate through the rest of the year.”  (7:44 | Scott Asmar) 
“There is something that goes on with the man in midlife. And it comes out in many different ways. But I believe, looking back now, that doing the self-checks and understanding how our dynamics, how our likes and dislikes change, helps us maneuver through that midlife crisis, as they say. And if we don't start understanding who we are in terms of this point in our life, we start to deteriorate.” (8:16 | Scott Asmar) 
 
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EP03: No Regrets: Forging My Non-Linear Future with Faith, Fatherhood and Fear

"Are you ready to reevaluate your life in midlife?" This question sets the stage for the latest episode of "Scott Asmar, the Man and Everything in Between." In this episode, Scott delves into the essence of being a man in midlife, emphasizing the importance of understanding various life aspects like finance, parenting, and relationships. He believes that knowing his background is key for listeners to fully grasp the topics discussed.
 
Scott shares his upbringing in a large Armenian Orthodox Christian family, highlighting the profound impact of regular church attendance on his faith journey. He emphasizes the core values of love and acceptance in Christianity, making it clear that his approach is not about judgment or condemnation.
 
Discussing his educational background, Scott reveals his extensive academic journey, including a bachelor's degree in psychology, a master's in counseling education, and a Ph.D. in counseling human services. He recounts his early career as a study coordinator for psychiatric drug research and his significant transition to becoming a stay-at-home dad, which he considers his greatest accomplishment. Scott stresses the vital role of being present and actively involved in raising children.
 
Delving into fatherhood, Scott offers insights on the critical role fathers play in their children's lives. He notes that fathers are the first significant male influence in their daughters' lives and provide a foundation of strength and stability for their sons. He advises young fathers on the importance of spending quality time with their children and creating a structured environment for them.
 
As his children grew up and left home, Scott found himself at a crossroads, eager to pursue his dreams and explore new paths. He encourages listeners to confront their fears and take action, sharing his personal journey of chasing an acting career and participating in showcases. Despite the challenges and lack of immediate success, Scott views each experience as a stepping stone and remains committed to his aspirations.
 
This episode of "Scott Asmar, the Man and Everything in Between" offers a rich tapestry of the host's life experiences, focusing on love, acceptance, the joys of parenting, and the courage to chase dreams. It's a heartfelt call to action for men in midlife to reevaluate and rejuvenate their lives.
 
Quotes:
“Christians were put here not to judge and condemn, but to love and embrace all. And I want my listeners to know that that is the foundation for me and my Christian faith is to love and embrace. I'm not here to judge and condemn.” (2:55 | Scott Asmar)
 
“During those formative years, raising the children, you have to put yourself in the backseat, you have to put your your needs kind of on hold, which leads into the next takeoff, which is once you have launched them, as they say, and they are out of the house, then it can revert back to you.” (8:37 | Scott Asmar) 
 
Everybody hears everything, but only few listen to anything. And I want all of you to see everything, to listen to everything, and absorb all the knowledge that's around you each day. (13:06 | Scott Asmar) 
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EP02: Taxiing My Way Through Life

"Have you ever looked back at your childhood dreams and wondered what if?" This thought-provoking question opens the second episode of "Scott Asmar, The Man and Everything in Between." In this episode, Scott Asmar delves into the tapestry of his life, starting from his roots in a small town in the Central Valley, where he was raised by young parents with a rich blend of Armenian, Lebanese, and Spanish heritage. As an only child, Scott found a unique sense of belonging and comfort in his extended family, particularly cherishing his connections with his second cousins.
 
Reflecting on the solitude of his rural upbringing and the challenges of being bullied in school, Scott reveals how these experiences shaped his resilient and imaginative spirit. His childhood, though marked by loneliness, became a crucible for his rich imagination, fueled by his faith and his fascinating world of imaginary friends. 
 
A constant thread in Scott's life story is his enduring fascination with aircraft, a passion that has not only stayed with him but also serves as a metaphor for life's journey. Scott eloquently compares our life stages to the phases of an aircraft's journey - the waiting, taking off, landing, and refueling, highlighting how each stage mirrors our own life experiences.
 
Now at 55, Scott stands at a pivotal moment, ready to embrace his long-held dreams and aspirations. He inspires listeners to revisit their childhood passions, sharing his own story of pursuing a Ph.D. in psychology counseling, a path that diverged from his family's agricultural background but led him to find true fulfillment. His journey is a testament to the importance of following one's passion, even when it diverges from expected paths.
 
In this episode, Scott passionately advocates for the rediscovery and cultivation of passions, especially in midlife. He believes that the zeal and energy of our youth can be rekindled, sharing his personal decision to embark on an acting career at the age of 55, a dream he had long harbored.
 
Concluding with a powerful message, Scott encourages listeners to open the doors to self-awareness and to embrace their desires and dreams, irrespective of their age. He reminds everyone that it's never too late to recalibrate and embrace new opportunities for growth. The episode ends with an invitation to engage with the podcast and to follow Scott on Instagram for more personal insights.
 
In this deeply personal and inspiring episode of "Scott Asmar, The Man and Everything in Between," Scott explores the critical theme of revisiting and revitalizing one's life in midlife, encouraging a journey of rediscovery, passion, and personal growth.
 
Quotes:
“The best way to find out what that dream is, what that aspiration is, is to look back at your childhood and reflect on what motivated you as a child. What type of play did you engage in? And what type of atmosphere did you thrive in? Even if that atmosphere was sports, you know, what in itself with the sporting that you chose, what motivated you? OK, what drew you to that sport? That in itself can reveal something about you and your passion.” (11:04 | Scott Asmar)
 
“I believe that whatever drove us as a child, whatever we engaged in our play as a child, as adolescent, whatever we thought, whatever we felt gave us this energy, I don't think really ever leaves no matter what path we decide to take. And I believe that we need to find a way, especially in midlife, especially with the midlife man, that it's okay to go back and find that passion and look at that passion and foster it now and foster it and give it some life in a physically and mentally healthy way.” (15:37 | Scott Asmar)
 
“Many go through life looking at everything, yet seeing nothing. And I want you to see everything.” (17:40 | Scott Asmar) 
 
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EP01: New Beginnings & Birthdays

Have you ever felt like you're on a runway, waiting for clearance to take off, especially in midlife? In "Scott Asmar, the Man and Everything in Between," host Scott Asmar, a Ph.D. in psychology counseling with a rich multicultural background, delves into this feeling. He explores the complexities of midlife, focusing on areas like finance, parenting, and relationships, drawing from his personal and professional experiences. 
 
In this inaugural episode, Scott shares his unique journey, growing up in an Armenian household influenced by Lebanese and Spanish cultures. He discusses how this has shaped his perspective and how embracing one's heritage can be a blessing. The episode touches on various vital topics that resonate with men in midlife, such as handling family responsibilities, financial management, and navigating emotional challenges. Scott emphasizes the importance of acknowledging and expressing emotions, a practice often neglected by men.
 
Scott also plans to cover practical aspects like quick recipes and tips for managing seasonal mood changes, including tackling the 'summer blues.' He acknowledges the sense of isolation that can pervade despite today’s digital connectivity, and suggests that his podcast will offer strategies and insights for overcoming these feelings. His message is clear: you're not alone in these experiences.
 
This podcast aims to support and provide practical advice to men navigating midlife. Scott invites his audience to engage with his podcast, leave reviews, and follow him on Instagram for more insights. With an engaging, insightful, and empathetic tone, Scott creates a welcoming space for listeners to explore and redefine midlife with purpose and joy.
 
Quote:
“Continue to listen and remember to keep your eyes open and your ears tuned, because I don't want you to miss a thing in your life.” (5:15 | Scott Asmar) 
 
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Scott Asmar: The Man & Everything In Between - Trailer

In the launch of his new podcast, Scott Asmar: The Man & Everything In Between, will focus on subjects like relationships, finance, raising children,personal development, along with everything that happens in between.  Scott grew up in an Armenian-American household in a small Central California agricultural town with big dreams. As a Ph.D. psychologist, business owner, artist, husband and father, Scott will touch on the importance of self-reflection and community support specifically for men in midlife.  He aims to provide practical tips and his personal experiences and stories to help listeners navigate life's challenges and realize they are not alone.